Navigating the After-Date Disappointment: A Gentleman’s Guide to Saying Goodbye
It’s a common scenario: you’ve gone on a first date, and the spark you hoped for just isn’t there. Perhaps the conversation was strained, her personality clashed with yours, or she revealed traits that weren’t what you expected. So, what do you do?
The temptation to simply disappear can be strong. After all, nobody wants to be the one to break bad news. But, just as you wouldn’t want to be left hanging in the dark, it’s essential to be honest and respectful, even when the date wasn’t a success.
Honesty with a Touch of Grace:
Remember, not liking someone isn’t a crime. However, ghosting someone after a date can be hurtful and confusing. It’s important to acknowledge the effort they put into the date and to be upfront about your feelings.
If the date went horribly wrong – think excessive alcohol consumption or deceptive online personas – a direct and concise message is best. Keep it brief, acknowledge the situation, and politely decline any future contact.
When It’s Simply Not a Match:
If the date was pleasant but lacked that “click,” a more tactful approach is needed. Be honest about your impressions. Perhaps you enjoyed their company but realized you’re looking for something different. Or, you could simply express that you don’t feel a romantic connection.
Remember the Golden Rule:
Ultimately, treat others the way you’d like to be treated. Even if a date isn’t a success, a gentle and respectful message goes a long way. It’s a sign of good character and fosters a positive experience for both parties.
Be Mindful:
Remember, “not liking” someone is subjective. It’s vital to approach these situations with sensitivity and empathy. While it’s okay to have preferences, it’s important to avoid judgment or hurtful comments.
Ending on a Positive Note:
While saying goodbye can be difficult, it’s an opportunity to practice communication skills and show respect. With a little thoughtfulness and grace, you can end a date on a positive note, even if it’s not a love story.
Additional Information
HOW TO BEHAVE IF YOU DON’T LIKE A GIRL
Some guys prefer not to call, write or date a girl who didn’t interest or repulsed you with her behaviour on the first date.
Such a strategy has the right to life in cases where the date she behaved inappropriately (too much alcohol, too many tattoos, etc.), or revealed a fraud, for example, if dating took place on the Internet, her profile could be someone else’s photo, or she hid the fact that the “real” is 30 pounds fatter than in the photo.
If the girl just didn’t live up to your expectations, became not as interesting as when communicating online, or she turned out to have crooked/ too flat/fat legs, or she can’t kiss, you shouldn’t punish her with uncertainty and just disappear.
It’s enough to just talk and tactfully mark the boundaries of further communication