Renowned Counsellor and Conference Speaker, Frank Edem Adofoli has said that it’s not the responsibility of married men to feed a single lady who is lazy, idle, or not earning much. Don’t employ them as a side chick or mistress, or invest in them and think you can control them. Those ladies are into business; the side chick business is more expensive than the prostitute on the street. What you call investment is what she terms payment for her service. If you think she is hungry, let hunger kill her. You are not Father Christmas. If no man is patronizing her, she has no business.
King Solomon, who has more experience with them than any man, had this to say: “The words of an immoral woman may be as sweet as honey and as smooth as olive oil. But all that you really get from being with her is bitter poison and pain. If you follow her, she will lead you down to the world of the dead.” – Proverbs 5:3-5 (CEV).
If you invest your life savings or take out a loan to keep such a relationship, remember that is how much it costs you to keep it, you do so at your own risk. The silly part of such a risk is that you are not even married to such a lady; she is free to get married to anyone or go for someone who is ready to pay more.
So why will a man in his right-thinking sense invest in a woman that will leave him anytime without any law protecting or recognizing such a relationship?
Frank Edem Adofoli (Counselor Adofoli)